Just before Christmas, I posted that I was withdrawing from social media.
I was fed up and was unsure of the role I wanted it to play in my life.
I’m a person who is focused on experiencing life as it is right NOW! If I am out with friends or in a social setting, I like to be there in the discussion, not half in half out on my phone.
I’m hopeless if I am at a work or blogging event. My phone gets lost amongst real conversations and laughter. I would much rather interact with people in person then be sending out tweets or photos hoping to connect.
I generally get halfway through an event and think “Shit I should be tweeting this,” without really wanting to because it steals away my presence. It’s a task I willingly hand over to Craig if it’s y travel blog related.
If it’s on Mojito Mother turf, I find a way to balance it, only doing the updates in a spare moment and only doing a few.
That was until instagram came to android phones.
At last. I could join the cult.
At first I loved it. I thought it was so cool how you could capture any sort of random image, emotion, or snapshot of your day. You could even follow instagram parties and themes and get oh so creative.
Not long after, I started to discover my unease and disgruntlement with it. It was about the same time my sister told me how stupid she thought it was. “It changes people. I know so many people now who do stupid things just so they can put the photo on instagram and be a hero. It’s a look at me platform. My friends are on it all the time, they hardly even speak to you anymore, they’re too busy trying to snapshot everything.”
I knew exactly what she meant.
Photo by photo, instagram was eroding away the real motion pictures of my life and replacing it with a framed lifeless snapshot. The filters making it even more un-real.
Moments of my life stolen by a phone camera and a filter.
I battled between the need to do this for business and not giving a fuck because of the imposition.
The imposition won out.
Why am I doing this for? What value is it adding to my life? What value is it taking away?
I decided to withdraw to figure it out.
I’ve barely been on instagram since that decision and I have loved it. Craig still runs y travel blog instagram, but Mojito Mother I gave up on.
It was amazing how much of my life I got back. Social media can drain you and place far too many pressures on you to “do” because you feel you have to.
When it comes to Facebook and Twitter, I can shut off easily. I love them both as effective tools for engaging with my community and being helpful. I can schedule facebook and twitter into my work schedule. They have been vital for forming relationships, getting to know people within my community, and connecting with brands and companies I wish to work with. REAL value.
I love these two tools and taking my break made me realize they are both very important to my business and I love hanging out on them. I am pretty strong and can control my usage of them and not allow it to take away my personal time and the experience of now.
I dislike it immensely.
For one, the connecting to community part is limited, although available. It is a total invasion of privacy and the ability for someone to appreciate the moment of now.
How can they?
They are too busy getting the perfect snap: the meal, the candelabra, the neck tie, the hairstyle, the new shoes, the street sign and it goes on.
But wait, once the perfect photo is taken, you then have to edit it in your photo editor app and choose the correct filter, which can take up to 20 minutes (well for me anyway)
Then you have to battle with instagram slow app speeds to upload the photo, location tag it, write your caption, hash tag it and then hope people will like it. Because if they don’t then what is the point? What else are you going? It’s not like they are coming to your blog.
I can pin an image from a post onto Pinterest, which takes me five minutes and then have 1,000 people visit my blog and get to know the value I provide. They can look around; see who I am, what I do, what I am expert in and how I can help them.
In instagram? I might get thumbs up, if I took the best photo and filtered it right.
With other platforms I can work it around my schedule. Instagram bursts in announced.
I found that taking the photo and filtering it became more important than building a sandcastle with Kalyra or playing cheeky monkey with Savannah.
Why do I need the world to see this? Especially when it takes 30 minutes to show–30 minutes I could spend cuddling and laughing with my girls.
No thanks. I love the present far too much to allow any phone app to distract me from it.
Taking 20 minutes to capture a moment that could otherwise just be adored for what it is, is ridiculous.
I don’t think I can offer much more on instagram then a hey look at me. In regards to the travel blog, it works better as we can showcase destinations and cool things to do.
I’m out with Instagram. I think I have posted 5 photos since before Christmas. I’ve decided at most I will post one photo a day if it moves me and does not distract me from living. If I did not have children and a busy business, I might think of it in a different way.
My life, my children, my moments are too precious to give away to this invasion.
I get the allure. I understand how much fun it can be and how your creative side can be let loose, but for me, it is not worth it.
I like taking the time to sit and watch the sun flicker on the ocean, feel the breeze settle the sweat beads, and have my children run gaily into my arms.
Instagram steals these moments from you and for what?
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