How to be a happy wife

I’m not sure how Fawn and I first connected, I think it was via a comment on a blog post on Mojito Mother. Her positive, bubbly nature spoke of authenticity, wisdom, and connection.

The website URL in her comment certainly grabbed my attention- The Happy Wives Club.

When does one ever hear that? It’s usually about divorce rates, marital affairs, and husbands who annoy the crap out of their wives, let alone make them happy!

A comment I’d often heard from a wide variety of people in relation to Craig’s and my marriage has been, “Don’t you ever get sick of each other? I could not ever spend that much time with my partner.”

Craig and I have had a very atypical marriage. 3 days after our wedding we left for a honeymoon that lasted 5 years. If living out of each other’s pocket in trying circumstances like that ain’t going to break you, then pretty much nothing won’t.

All we had was each other; we made friends along the way, but they were our friends, so when we hung out we hung out together. And now we run our own business together. So now do I not only travel 24/7 with Craig, I work 24/7 with him too.

Yep. It’s hard and we drive each other nuts, but it works for many reasons. We’ve made it work with children, and we survived and recovered from a major financial disaster, something the statistics will tell you most won’t recover from.

Do I belong in the Happy Wives Club?


When Fawn approached me about her new book, I was delighted to read it. I did not commit to writing a post on here for the Happy Wives Blog Tour because I felt I didn’t really have much to share about being a happy wife. Craig and I have our ups and downs, and it was probably in a down moment when she asked. We’ve had to work through a lot over the past few years. Its been tough and often hard to see the happiness.

But,  challenges and frustrating times are transitory. The happiness comes and go with each meal we laugh over and each frustration we have at not being understood.

Holding our marriage up is a sense of peace that we’re in this together and the happiness will continue to flow with that attitude.

The Universe always hands you exactly what you need to learn. Teachers arrive and messages from the angels. I read Fawn’s book over Christmas, and my angel oracle cards told me Daniel the angel of marriage was hanging around.

Both gave me a happiness boost, as did a peaceful and joyful Christmas with Craig and the girls.

In keeping with the spirit of Fawn’s book and mission, I thought I would share my thoughts on how to be a happy wife after all.

How to be a happy wife

Don’t expect to be happy all the time

Marriage is not the wedding. Once you accept the bliss won’t be there all the time, you stop fighting against the bad times and continue moving forward.

True happiness is learning to accept and live with the unhappy moments as well the good. And when they come, you follow my next point to work through it.

Consider yourself a team

I would say this has always been our motto and the one thing that keeps us moving forward. We’ve never felt separate, our purpose has always been to work together to reach the goals. Perhaps it’s our mad love for sports and all things Jerry Maguire that cements that for us!!

When you work on a team, you are there for each other, win or lose.

Laugh at and with each other

When you are 24/7 with someone, you will annoy each other. It’s either going to end up in an explosion of hurtful words and emotions, or lots of giggles.

Sometimes we have the explosions, but mostly we just laugh and tease each other about them. And ladies, you have to laugh at their incredibly silly jokes. We still find a lot to laugh together over.

Create each other’s dream

Fortunately for Craig and I, we have always had the same dream so this one is pretty easy. I think its important that no person sacrifices their dream for the other.

Even if you don’t have the same dream to work towards, you can make it your own by helping the other make it happen. If you are both happy living the life you really love, you’ll be a happy wife. (+ husband)

Play together

It always amazed me how so many married couples I know don’t play together. They rarely hang out and profess how much they don’t want to!

Craig and I enjoy hanging out together. We exercise together, attend concerts and sporting events, and party to the wee hours—(not always a good thing!) Just this evening, we were play wrestling with each other, which the girls felt was hilarious.

Play to your strengths

I see the forests, Craig sees the trees. When he was working in construction, I once helped him build a deck for a friend. I lasted a day. Everything had to be done so perfectly, and I just wanted him to bang in the nail  so we could have the finished vision.

“Caroline, you have to perfect it, if you are 1mm out the deck falls apart.”  So now in our business, I do the dreaming, get a feel for the final products, punch out the vision and then pass it to him to scrutinize with his amazing eyes that sees things I never will.

Things are so much happier when we play to our strengths. This also includes learning how to live with each other. You need to adjust to sharing forever space with another person. Discover what works well and play to that.

Have your own interests

I’m driving Craig a little crazy at the moment with my new fascination with angel oracle readings. “Don’t you just have to do them once? Why do you keep consulting them?”

He’s not the greatest fan of my woo woo ness, but I am. I’m not the greatest fan of some of his sporting infatuations, but he is.

Travel together

Not only will you create amazing memories that will carry you through the challenging times, you are also working together through challenges on the road.

It’s the best way to get to know your partner and cement the bond between the two of you. Once again, we are finding with our current road trip, just how strong our marriage is. The joy of living our dreams together keeps us together.

The Happy Wives club Mission

I learned a lot from reading Fawn’s book and I admire her mission in life- to prove that thousands of happy marriages do exist.

She travelled around the world to talk with happily married couples to find their secrets. She shares their wisdom, plus what she learns about her own marriage along the way.

It’s a great book for anyone needing a little spark reignition in their marriage, of for any person about to jump into this exciting time of their life. No need to listen to all those who tell you marriage changes your life in a bad way, in can enrich your life with much happiness.

Things I need to work on that I got from the book

  • Don’t go to bed on an argument
  • Give more of what I want to receive
  • Respect and honour your husband’s differences

Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver, the founder of the Happy Wives Club wrote a book about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer. They say the book is like “Eat, Pray, Love meets The 5 Love Languages.” I say the book is inspiring. You can grab a copy HERE.

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What makes you a happy wife?

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  • Maggie Reyes

    Oh Caroline, I love this so much! And totally agree – playing as a team and to each other’s strengths is sooooo important and avoids so much heartache.

    I also love seeing Spirited right next to Happy Wives Club – since both have been such a huge influence in my life this year. How lovely to see them together!

    Thanks so much for a great post!


    • Caz Makepeace

      Yes! A pretty powerful combination. One for self relationship, the other for romantic. You can’t have a strong one without the other!


  • Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

    I think I just had a tear-up moment. This is so beautiful, Caz! I sure hope you’re still in Australia when I head that way for the international leg of the book tour. The book doesn’t release there until the beginning of March though. Fingers crossed we will meet!


    • Caz Makepeace

      Oh Fawn, I’d so love to meet up. I hope we can make it work. We should be in South Australia in March, heading towards Western Australia. I hope you will be in those areas somewhere.


  • Linda Bibb

    May I add a few more things that have helped me?
    – Most disagreements are over small stuff that won’t matter tomorrow. Choose your battles and let him be right whenever it’s unimportant.
    – Give him as much physical affection as you can (wink, wink)
    – Thank God when you hear him snoring. At least he’s breathing!


  • Stephanie

    I really enjoyed reading you article. You brought up a lot of points that my husband and I had to learn the hard way. I like your point about having your own interests however I feel it is important to tried to do the things your spouse likes as well.


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