I asked Craig to think about ways in which we could improve our relationship.
It’s not that our relationship is horrible, but I think everything in life has room for improvement. I wasn’t completely happy with how our relationship was and I really missed those days when we first got together.
Days filled with romance, laughter and infatuation.
I know this is the wooing stage and marriage is anything but roses, but that doesn’t mean love and romance has to die.
When we first got together, I felt I was the luckiest girl in the world.
No truly, I did.
Craig ticked off almost all the boxes and I could never work out why he wanted to be with me, and not only that, but treat me like I was the best thing that had happened to him. And then after we married, we took off around the world for an unbelievable five year honeymoon.
Lately, a lot of what we had that made us so great became buried.
Buried under pain, challenges, stress, parenting, and the immersion of us into our blogging world, working our tails off to see our dream become a reality.
We had no time for each other, no time to appreciate and love like we used to.
“We don’t laugh much anymore,” Craig off-handedly mentioned to me a few weeks back after we had a good silly giggle together.
I paused. He was right. We don’t and we used to so much.
It made me sad to think we had allowed laughter to silently leave our lives.
And so when he was in New Zealand I had time to think about us and how I wanted it to be. I wanted to improve our relationship, bring back the laughter and the feelings of “You are the best thing that has ever happened to me.”
Lina wrote recently of the good things that come with separation. Usually I think of the bad, as do most.
But she opened my mind to consider what good may have come from Craig and I being apart. It made me realize what I did not like and what I wanted to bring back.
Since he has been back, good things have happened.
We are laughing a lot more. I take the time now to think more of how I can make him smile and I enjoy taking a moment for warm, delicious cuddles. He is once again the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me.
When he returned from New Zealand I asked him if he thought about us and how we can make our relationship better.
“Oh that…. I didn’t pay much attention to that,” he said with a manly roll of his “here she goes again” eyes.
Not “THE TALK” again.
“It’s simple. All we need to do is have more sex.”
And therein lies the difference between men and women. The yin and the yang. The depth verse the simplicity
Maybe when you stop and think about, there just might be some logic and truth to it. Like the 100 day sex challenge, the new couple’s therapy that seems to work tremendously and is all the rage!
Maybe us women just like to complicate things way too much.
Time to get back to basics huh?
Sure is fun trying!
How do you work on improving your relationships? Can more Sex help?