{"id":927,"date":"2011-06-09T20:38:50","date_gmt":"2011-06-09T20:38:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/?p=927"},"modified":"2013-08-28T09:54:47","modified_gmt":"2013-08-27T23:54:47","slug":"is-gratitude-too-touchy-feely","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/2011\/06\/is-gratitude-too-touchy-feely\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Gratitude Too Touchy-Feely?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I left a travel\u00a0bloggers\u00a0Facebook\u00a0group the other day. In all honestly, I had wanted to do it for some time. I joined the group as I felt it might be a worthwhile place to exchange information with others and learn new things. But,\u00a0every time\u00a0I went in there\u00a0it was filled with arguments and egotistical stroking.<\/p>\n

The other day, I got really pissed and\u00a0found\u00a0myself involved in an argument right in the middle of Will and Kate’s wedding. I don’t like getting into arguments and I don’t like it when people say shit just in an effort to make themselves sound like they know everything.<\/p>\n

After comments were made to the effect that gratitude goes overboard and can be too touchy-feely, I decided to press\u00a0the “leave-this-group” button. Who wants to hang around people who hold this narrow and\u00a0disempowering\u00a0view on life?<\/strong><\/p>\n

These comments coming from a person who I have not yet seen display one iota of gratitude to\u00a0anyone\u00a0else online. He only comments in places where he can argue his point, the point that makes him sound like he knows everything and has been\u00a0everywhere. If anyone\u00a0counteracts, respect is never shown for their opinion, again words are spewed forth\u00a0to\u00a0raise his expertise and God like qualities up.<\/p>\n

Never a “Thanks for that comment.” “I like what you are saying … but”<\/em><\/p>\n

It all got a bit much for me and I\u00a0ended\u00a0up retorting in a rude fashion that if this was his attitude then I hope I never\u00a0meet\u00a0him on\u00a0the\u00a0street or at a party. This was because he seemed to think those who do show appreciation and gratitude to those who respond to others when they leave them a comment as fake\u00a0and\u00a0not really being like this in real life. Rubbish.<\/p>\n

Bah… Mind you I have a bee in my bonnet about this person to begin with. When I first started travel blogging he piped his holier-than-thou head up to rudely and arrogantly tell me that my goals were unrealistic and that pretty much, I wouldn’t\u00a0be able to achieve them. In promoting his own self-importance he assumed many things about me, namely that I didn’t have what it took, I knew nothing about blogging, and I wasn’t\u00a0willing to\u00a0work hard. Well I’ve achieved most of my goals in a year that he said took him 3 years to do therefore I couldn’t\u00a0do it.<\/p>\n

Is gratitude too touchy-feely? Does it go overboard?<\/h2>\n

What\u00a0would\u00a0you remember more and who would you like to follow and\u00a0support\u00a0more, someone who shows no thanks or\u00a0appreciation\u00a0to others\u00a0or someone who takes time out of their day to\u00a0thank\u00a0you? It doesn’t have to be a\u00a0gushing\u00a0of\u00a0emotions\u00a0and\u00a0washing\u00a0of your feet.<\/p>\n

Appreciation\u00a0and gratitude can be shown in many ways.<\/strong> Responding\u00a0to\u00a0someone’s\u00a0comment on your blog lets them know that you appreciate their input and the\u00a0time they have taken to support and follow you. When someone pays you a compliment all you need to do is smile and say a\u00a0simple\u00a0thank you.<\/p>\n

\"Gratitude\"<\/a>

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I get so excited and happy when someone reads my blog as it makes all my hard work seem worthwhile; I am so grateful for it. \u00a0I know if they didn’t I wouldn’t\u00a0be going anywhere. Every single reader is helping me achieve my dreams, just by reading. How can you not feel gratitude for\u00a0them?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Is this going overboard and to touchy\u00a0feely, or is this instead respecting someone and desiring to leave a positive impact upon the world?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I think gratitude is one of the most undervalued and underused emotions that we can ever feel or display<\/strong>. There is unlimited power in gratitude which is spoken of in countless ways by many successful and\u00a0inspiring\u00a0people of our times.<\/p>\n

Would\u00a0you listen to Oprah, Richard\u00a0Branson, Anthony Robbins, Nelson Mandela, Jesus or would you listen to small, self-serving, arrogant people?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So what ended up\u00a0happening\u00a0with the man in this travel blogging group? I wrote to him and told him what I\u00a0thought\u00a0due to my own personal\u00a0interactions\u00a0with him. I\u00a0Said\u00a0I\u00a0thought\u00a0he was arrogant and full of shit. I don’t usually talk to people\u00a0like\u00a0that but I had just had enough of the way he spoke to and treated not just me but many others.<\/p>\n

He of course wrote back to let me know how great he was and how small I was. He said I was now in his “elite group of\u00a0bloggers” who he would never lift a finger to help.<\/p>\n

Funny that. As he has never lifted a finger to help me before and I’ve done pretty damn well without his help.<\/p>\n

But, I should have had more composure and should not have been insulting.<\/strong> I wrote back and apologized for it. I\u00a0have\u00a0no problem admitting when I am wrong and being accountable for it. I have not heard a thing back. No\u00a0acknowledgment\u00a0of my\u00a0apology whatsoever and heaven forbid to think he would ever go that far to say he may have been wrong as well.<\/p>\n

Is gratitude\u00a0too\u00a0touchy\u00a0feely\u00a0and does it go overboard? Or does it make you a bigger and better person? Does it help you to recognize and appreciate the good in others? Can it also help you to appreciate the bad things that happen in your life?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I am thankful for this\u00a0man. And in many ways he has lifted a finger\u00a0to help\u00a0me over the past year. If it wasn’t for his comments way back when I started I may never have had the drive and motivation to show him that he never has the right to comment on someone\u2019s\u00a0dreams and say whether it is possible or not<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I am grateful for him as he now pushes me harder to be bigger and better and to show him that I can do really well without his finger of help.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The\u00a0gratitude\u00a0takes away the anger and replaces it instead with something more\u00a0purposeful\u00a0and powerful.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Yesterday, as I walked away from a fantastic\u00a0morning\u00a0at a private launch of a new Qantas campaign, my whole body filled up with total glee and I shouted<\/p>\n

“Thank you Thank you Thank you.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In my touchy\u00a0feeliness\u00a0I was thanking the powers that allowed this gift to walk into my life. That which has given me the opportunity to live my dreams. It’s the gratitude that shows me what my life could be like otherwise and I just want to kiss the skies for allowing me to be so happy and bringing the right people and resources into my life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everything\u00a0and everyone that enters into our lives is a gift.<\/strong> The\u00a0water that we drink,\u00a0the\u00a0air that we breathe, the\u00a0conversations\u00a0that we have.\u00a0They\u00a0all add value to our lives.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

How can you not be thankful for this and display that gratitude? How can a kind word not raise our world up? Isn’t that\u00a0what we all\u00a0should\u00a0be\u00a0aiming\u00a0to do? Isn’t it that which will make us feel so much better about\u00a0ourselves and others?<\/p>\n

I will\u00a0continue\u00a0to go\u00a0overboard\u00a0with\u00a0gratitude<\/strong>. I will continue to be touchy\u00a0feely\u00a0as I\u00a0know\u00a0the\u00a0joy it can give to me and to others. I know the power that lies behind gratitude.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you are thankful for all the goodness in your life you will get more to be thankful for.<\/p>\n

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