{"id":5961,"date":"2012-07-19T23:37:30","date_gmt":"2012-07-19T13:37:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/?p=5961"},"modified":"2013-08-25T21:52:04","modified_gmt":"2013-08-25T11:52:04","slug":"changing-yourself-for-the-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/2012\/07\/changing-yourself-for-the-better\/","title":{"rendered":"Changing yourself for the better: most people don’t want to change"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s been proven to me time and time again,\u00a0yet I still can’t believe it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n

I just can’t understand it.<\/p>\n

If you have a problem or if things aren\u2019t working for you in life than the best solution is to fix it. Most of the time it means to change.<\/p>\n

Sounds easy to me.<\/p>\n

Except most people want their problems fixed without having to change, not understanding that the thing that needs to be changed is why the problem is there the first place.<\/p>\n

Changing yourself for the better is what most people don’t want to do<\/h2>\n

I was chatting with a friend about this. A friend of a friend needs to make changes or else the road ahead is not pretty. A road they don’t want, but will take because they don\u2019t want to change.<\/p>\n

They fear what the change will bring.<\/p>\n

It’s a matter of well if I change then who will I be<\/em>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

That loss of identity is more frightening than the path they don’t want.<\/p>\n

We spend all our lives creating our stories<\/strong><\/a> and then we hold onto these stories because we believe they define<\/strong> who we are. If we take away the stories then what tis left? How can others relate to me?<\/p>\n

We all have stories and we all need stories, but we can’t hold onto them. Our stories need to change and evolve like we do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"changing<\/a>

Change and be free to fly<\/p><\/div>\n

Changing yourself for the better<\/h2>\n

Imagine if we held onto our six month old body, because we were frightened what our twenty year old one would do. Our twenty year one would have a completely different skin cell structure and would look nothing like our baby self- maybe a glimpse here and there. But it would be perfectly designed to deal with our adult lives.<\/p>\n

If we held on to our baby body we couldn\u2019t progress. We couldn\u2019t get stronger, we couldn’t get wiser, we would not evolve and we would die.<\/p>\n

So why do we hold onto our inner selves and stories in this way?<\/h3>\n

If we do we don\u2019t grow, we don’t get stronger or wiser, we don’t evolve and so we die.<\/p>\n

We remain stagnant, making the same old decisions that take us down the same treacherous paths.<\/p>\n

If only people understood that in letting go of the stories<\/strong> you give yourself the freedom to create a new life<\/strong>, a new you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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