{"id":497,"date":"2011-04-11T22:04:04","date_gmt":"2011-04-11T22:04:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/?p=497"},"modified":"2013-08-30T02:30:43","modified_gmt":"2013-08-29T16:30:43","slug":"should-i-let-my-daughter-cheat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/2011\/04\/should-i-let-my-daughter-cheat\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I let my daughter cheat?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I hate cheating. I love playing a game and having the satisfaction of knowing I won based on skill alone<\/strong>. I will not cheat in order to win, there is no fun in this; I would just walk away feeling a truck load of guilt, fearing a big lightning bolt from above striking my head.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3HCWZT2RAJT6<\/p>\n

Kalyra and I love to play memory game, or concentration, with animal cards together. This is a great game that helps to teach Kalyra how to think. As a mother and teacher, I aim to set up situations for my daughter that enables her to think and solve problems for herself<\/strong>. I am not a believer in doing things for her just so I can feel needed. If I think she is capable of doing it then she is going to do it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course she is only three and so when we play she has a few of her own little rules she wants to play by. The play-by-the-rules finger in me starts to come out before I realize that perhaps there is something greater here for her to learn<\/strong> than just cheating is not a great thing.<\/p>\n

This can be a morality code that can be installed in small doses as she moves through life. Her little self-centred self is probably not going to fully grasp code of ethics just yet.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Playing the game right<\/p><\/div>\n

The more important lesson here is “How is she thinking and learning?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

So before I enforce the rules, I look at what is happening, and I may take a step back and let her go ahead. So of course, a rule is to take it in turns.<\/p>\n

But, sometimes during her turn she might uncover two animals that don’t match, yet one of those animals she can remember having a match somewhere else. She forgets that Mummy is meant to go next and shouts,<\/p>\n

“I know where the other one is”<\/em><\/strong> as she reaches to turn it over.<\/p>\n

So I can step in here and say “No, you have had your turn. It’s Mummy’s turn now.”<\/em><\/p>\n

And with that she loses the opportunity to use the very important memorization part of her brain <\/strong>that is developing as it guides her to the matching pair. And I rob her of that very important feeling of achievement. That positive internal motivation that keeps her wanting to learn more and succeeding more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Decision made.<\/p>\n

“Aren’t you so clever. Look how you remembered where it was. I’ll let you have this one, but remember you have to take turns and that was Mummy’s turn, but I really like the way you were thinking.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

If I continue to install values within her in our everyday life, the play-by-the-rules morality code will shine through when she needs it more later. Right now she needs to develop her self-esteem, her thinking skills and her passion for learning.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Choose your battles right. Always look for the more impactful reward.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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