{"id":2764,"date":"2011-11-03T23:45:38","date_gmt":"2011-11-03T23:45:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/?p=2764"},"modified":"2013-08-27T07:52:43","modified_gmt":"2013-08-26T21:52:43","slug":"learning-to-ask-for-and-receive-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojitomother.com\/2011\/11\/learning-to-ask-for-and-receive-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Learning to Ask For and Receive Help"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m not the type of person who likes to ask for help<\/strong>. I never have been.<\/p>\n

When I was young, I used to love doing jigsaw puzzles<\/strong>. I would sit there for hours and days patiently putting the pieces of the puzzle together. I loved the satisfaction of knowing<\/strong> that I had achieved it all on my own.<\/p>\n

It had to be on my own.<\/p>\n

If someone came along and put one piece of that puzzle in, I would pack the whole thing up and start again. Even if I was only ten pieces away from finishing a thousand piece puzzle.<\/p>\n

I see this characteristic in Kalyra, and while I know this has its very positive advantages<\/strong> it can also have very negative ones<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I try to advise her, “It’s okay to let people help you know. Sometimes they may be able to do the things you are struggling with.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Really, it should be me listening to my own advice<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I’m terrible at asking for help, and I am terrible at accepting help. I still want to know that I can do it all myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"helping<\/a>

receiving help<\/p><\/div>\n

My mum loves telling the story of when I was eighteen months old. She had three children under four so getting us dressed to go out was a bit of a nightmare for her.<\/p>\n

One day she had everyone dressed and ready to walk out the door to catch the bus. I had disappeared<\/strong>. In a panic she frantically looked around the house for me.<\/p>\n

I walked out of my bedroom in a totally different outfit exclaiming “I do it myself”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

This is a good way to be, but it can also be a really bad way to be too.<\/p>\n

I’m grateful lately that people have just been helping me without asking. Otherwise I would just say no.<\/p>\n

I can’t do it all myself.\u00a0I am learning to let go more and let others help me.<\/p>\n

I’m learning that this does not mean I am failure or that I can’t do it. It just means that I can’t do and be everything.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes allowing others to help is also giving them a gift<\/strong>, letting them know that you trust them and you appreciate<\/strong> what they can do for you.<\/p>\n

But, I still wouldn’t go touching those puzzle pieces of mine.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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