Keep Your Opinions to Yourself

I’m not sure if I’m even going to publish this post and with a title like that there is probably good reason not to. (originally there was the f bomb in the title)

I am completely burning up inside and writing for me can be a good way to release that. If I end up coming out with something of value other than a good old rant then I will publish.

What is it that makes people think they have a right to comment on the choices and life of other people?

Do they think they are perfect, and this perfection entitles them to do so? And that there way of thinking is the best and only way and anyone who doesn’t adhere to this is a dropkick?

As I said to my student who was so busy pointing the finger at another child yesterday, that they didn’t notice how they weren’t doing the right thing either,

“Do you have the recipe for perfection, because I would really like to get that from you? Until you are perfect then you keep your mouth closed and you worry about what you are doing and you alone. If we all just focused on that then we would all be doing the right thing and getting along.”

I am compeltely fed up with people thinking they have the right to comment on what I choose to do with my life. It’s none of your business.

 

 

 

 

child keeping her opinions to herself

Kalyra keeping her opinions to herself

 

 

 

 

 

Here is the deal:

I am a good person. I am friendly. I have good intentions. I like to help people. I like to inspire people. I like to laugh and have fun. I don’t much care what people think of me, but I usually think of others in a warm and positive way, even when I don’t really know them–I’m sure open to learn.

I don’t care if you smoke dope, sleep with members of the same sex, pick your nose, make a you tube video of you singing your favourite song, walk around your house naked, tell me your business on facebook, decide to become a hermit on the top of Mt Fuji or live in a monastery for the rest of your life.

All I care about is that you do your best to be happy,to live a good life and to help others.

If you are running around raping and killing women and children then I might have something to say abotu your life choices.

I have the best intentions wtih what I do,as I know most people are in doing what they do. No one wants to be a jerk, or mess their lives up, but sometimes we make mistakes, and that is okay as long as you learn and get back up again.

Sometimes others may make life choices that aren’t really ones I would make, and that is okay. Beacuse it is not my life. Why should I care?

Unless I think somehow their choices are responsible for making me happy. Unless I think that my life is so spiralling out of control that I have to focus on other people’s lives instead.

There are only two people in this life who have any right to comment on the choices that I make. And that is my Mum and Dad. They gave me life, and so I guess in some respects, even though I am a perfectly functioning adult, they can still claim some right over me.

But, you know what, they don’t. They know that really they don’t have a right. They know that the most important thing for me is to be happy. They don’t care what path I take to obtain that. They don’t care that I hang out on facebook, or that I write my innermost thoughts on my blog, or that I love travelling the world, leaving them behind and taking their grandchild with me.

Sure they want me to stay but they know my life is not about what they want.

We have had our differences in the past, but I can really look at our relationship now and be tremendously grateful for it and all they have taught me, so I can pass on the same gift to my child.

My father, is nearing…I can’t say… he is still 39. But let’s say I’m 35 so he is slightly older than that in reality. He still pursues and follows his passion of playing cricket. He plays for Australia in the over…… team, a couple of ages above the Baggy Greens.

This has been his passion his whole life, and while I never quite understood it, I understand the message that he taught me,

Have something in your life to love; have something in your life to be passionate about and to work towards. Because when you do that you will relinquish your right to constantly judge and criticize what others are doing with theirs. Why? because you won’t have time. You’ll be too focused and far too happy with what you have created. In the end all you’ll want to do is help others create the same happiness and passion.

There is no one in this planet that has any right to think they can tell me what I should do, how I should live my life and if I don’t live it according to what you want and your values then I am pathetic or shameful or have nothing better to do with my life.

Keep your small minded opinions to yourself

It’s my life. I don’t hurt anyone. I’ll do what I want to do with it. I was not born for you. And don’t ever again think that I was.

Do something to increase your own happiness instead.

 

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Comments
  • Minivan Mama

    I speak of this often. Unless you have walked in one’s shoes, keep your judgements to yourself.

    You are strong to stick to your convictions and follow your dreams of travel.

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    • Caz

      Exactly! Worry about your own life before you worry about others and then if you do make sure you understand it first.

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  • Mrs M

    I think you’ve just told them :-)

    Love & stuff
    Mrs M

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    • Caz

      I hope so, although I really doubt they will listen. They have had chances to before but they’re never wrong. Oh well, at least I feel better :)

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  • Juno

    Caz, god. That’s exactly what I’ve been thinking for the last..god knows how long. Yes, I am a good person, I love to laugh, I care about people, I am creative and in general, I’m awesome! I don’t want to be obnoxious but we all know how self confidence is important in this situation. They are not going to live my life for me. They are not going to make me a millionaire or make me a pop star or something. Just, it’s a blockage. I’m so glad we are smart and independent and, strong enough to write this post to the world.
    Cheers Caz!

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    • Caz

      Totally agree Juno. I don’t think it is being obnoxious, you are just recognizing what you have to offer the world and standing up for your dreams. Imagine how much nicer the world would be if everyone just did this and recognized others for their strengths and good traits instead of making them feel bad because of their own insecurities and jealousness.

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  • anon

    ” I am friendly. I have good intentions. I like to help people. I like to inspire people. I like to laugh and have fun. I don’t much care what people think of me, but I usually think of others in a warm and positive way, even when I don’t really know them–I’m sure open to learn.”

    You sure don’t sound friendly, and the people that comment anything to you probably thought THEY had good intentions, and you like to help people? Sounds like you like to put down anyone who doesn’t agree with YOU.

    Sounds to me you did the same thing as the child….Point a finger at someone, and you’ve got three back at yourself. Think about it….you like to give YOUR opinion and advice, but don’t want to take it from anyone else. You can step on someone elses toes, but don’t let them step on yours.

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    • Caz Makepeace

      Hmmm Pretty weird comment ANON, considering I’m not making a comment about anyone’s life and their choices. I’m just saying stop giving me shit about mine. Saying you don’t appreciate someone’s constant judgement and criticism of your choices in life is not judging or pointing the finger at them, it is saying “Stop it I don’t like it” which is a common thing to teach children to say when they are being picked on and bullied.

      It’s also a weird comment for you to make because you have no idea what it is that people have said to me because I have not gone into that detail. Telling someone to mind their own business is not judging or pointing the finger. We can’t all agree, I’m not suggesting that we should, nor live a life that pleases each other, that is impossible. But you can be happy with your own choices rather than worrying about what others do with theirs. If I don’t resonate with how someone else lives their life I just quietly go on with mine and let them live their own. It’s probably best you don’t read this site Anon because I don’t think we’d resonate with each other. See it’s a choice, you just quietly leave, like lots of other people have probably done.

      Next time Anon, I invite you to use your own name, so a proper conversation can be had. Not quite sure what you have to hide. At least I back my opinions up with a face and a name.

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